Balance is the manifestation of grounded care. Flow originates in care. Connection is shared care. Lack of care is, careless, awkward, chaotic. An attractive future unfolds from present shared care. I alternate between hiding and participating. The practice is to know what my care is and move from there, connect from there, stay with it, gently return to it, again and again. Straining (pushing and pulling) is not caring. It is avoiding care.