There is a real world. One moves in this world. One experiences this world. Then one reacts. (one can react before experience). The reactions are either acceptance/staying/flowing/connecting/and perhaps blending …or fearful aggression or fearful withdrawal–pushing or pulling. The acceptance staying from center/flowing/blending are present, "physical", coherent; generally "playful" and enjoyable. The fearful choice is non-present, non-staying, non-flowing, non-blending, abstract, and incoherent; generally awkward and painful. That is a heck of a choice.